The Breakdown
Dr. Orna unpacks common themes from this season of Couples Therapy and shares takeaways from each couples’ journey.
Starting Your Therapy Process
It can be really helpful to work with a therapist who shares your background, has experience supporting people from your community, or is trained to be open to, respect, and take into account your identity and lived experience.
Learn more about the benefits of finding a therapist who understands your cultural background, and consider the tips below:
Talk with more than one therapist if you can. Speaking with a few different therapists can help you get a sense of whether they might be a good fit.
Ask questions. Some questions you could ask prospective therapists include:
- Have you worked with anyone from my cultural background?
- Have you had training in race-related stress or cultural humility (understanding that identities are complex and that even in sameness there are differences)?
- Are you comfortable discussing racism, bias, and discrimination, and how they can affect mental health?
Reflect on their answers. Did they seem comfortable answering your questions? Did you feel safe and supported in the conversation? Therapy is most successful when you have a good fit, so trust your gut and make a switch if you need to.
Find these tips and more from The Jed Foundation here.
There are lots of ways to find low- or no-cost mental health care. Not sure where to begin? Here are 7 ways to find affordable mental health care options from The Jed Foundation, many of which are free.
You can also explore local psychoanalytic institutes, which often have training clinics that offer reduced fee therapy.
Another option is the Open Path Collective, a nonprofit network of mental health providers in all 50 states and Canada that provides inclusive and deeply reduced-cost therapy.
Learn more about different types of therapy and browse resources to find a therapist that best fits your identity, location, and unique needs here.
There are a number of organizations that offer therapist directories and services tailored to specific communities:
- The Asian Mental Health Collective offers a directory of therapists serving the Asian American community.
- The Boris Lawrence Henson Foundation curates a directory of local mental health providers and healing programs serving the Black community.
- Free Black Therapy connects Black and African American individuals who lack adequate funds or health insurance with free therapy options.
- Inclusive Therapists offers a safe, simple way to find a culturally responsive, social justice-oriented therapist.
- Latinx Therapy provides a directory of Latinx Therapists and other resources for easier accessibility to services.
- National Queer and Trans Therapists of Color Network (NQTTCN) works to increase access to healing resources for QTPOC.
- South Asian Mental Health Initiative and Network (SAMHIN) offers support groups, a directory of South Asian mental health providers and a helpline.
Listening and Communication
Listening and communication are essential tools for healthy relationships, whether with a partner, friend, or loved one. The tips below can help you listen, communicate, and check in more effectively.
Practice Active Listening
Try to understand what your partner, friend, or loved one is saying on their own terms — listen from a place of empathy. Let go of your preexisting convictions, and let new information in.
Lead With Curiosity
Approaching a conversation with curiosity rather than defensiveness can benefit any situation – from work to family to relationships. You don’t need to have all the answers and may even learn something new.
Check in With Yourself
Ask yourself: how am I feeling and why? What do I want out of this conversation and how do I want it to end? Do I need to take a break?
Check-in With Your Loved One
Pause and consider: What do they need right now? Is there anything I can offer that will make them feel safer? How can I connect to their emotions?
A.S.K. – Acknowledge, Support, Keep-In- Touch
The best way to support a friend or a loved one is to A.S.K. (Acknowledge, Support, Keep-In-Touch). Learn more.
Everyday Tools
No matter what you’re going through, there are always ways to take action to support yourself or a loved one. Below, find tools to support yourself and your community by understanding your feelings and creating healthy routines.
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BEAM’s Wellness Tools
Search Black Emotional & Mental Health Collective’s Database of wellness tools by category and media type.
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Mental Health America’s Tools 2 Thrive
Find information, tips, and practical tools to improve mental health and increase resiliency.
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Simple Tips To Make Your Relationships Stronger
Relationships are at the core of our mental well-being. Whether it’s with a parent, a sibling, a partner or a friend, check out ways to help your relationship thrive.
Need help now?
If you’re struggling and need to talk to someone, you’re not alone. There are lots of free, confidential resources available 24/7.